Space, give it to yourself.

It’s been awhile since I’ve wrote and I apologize for that. In my blog today I would like to talk about stepping away from life even when its not easy. The first step to understanding this is knowing when you have too much on your plate and being able to know when to take a step back.

Breathe, you can do it. 

For me, personally I have anxiety and when things become too much I start to breathe very heavily and my stress hits the fan. Breathing techniques is something that has actually helped me but also been a radar for when its all getting to be too much. So as teachers, colleagues and parents have all told us just breathe and give breathing techniques a try.


Giving yourself some time to go off the grid and reevaluate your goals is something that always helps me. Taking time for yourself is something we need that we tend to forget about the most. Even if it is sitting for five minutes a day doing nothing but being by yourself the peace and quiet is something everyone needs to keep themselves sane.

As your parents have said, join a hobby 

Many of us when we were young our parents made us try things that we were annoyed with or were irritated with but in the end more than likely you ended up liking it or just learning from it. That thing that you have been putting off, that weird thing you want to try, do it. There is no better time than today to go sign up for something that you don’t know could change your life or less dramatic, your perspective.

Religion or whatever your heart desires 

Every person has some difference of beliefs nowadays and although it is pretty cliche, I find prayer really soothing. Whether it be God, Allah, or SpongeBob talk to them, make a home inside the world you live in and a space of mind where you can find a way to calm yourself even when its hectic.

These are just some things I personally do when it comes to taking time for myself. You are the most important thing about your world and your health and happiness is the most important so make yourself happy and work on you even if its not convienent for everyone else. In your early 20’s it can be extremely difficult to find time in between work, social life, and alcohol but make that time so you can keep your mind healthy as can be!

Until next time,


Springing back into Drinking Season



As we all know with the weather getting nicer the beer just gets colder. Although we are getting older, we aren’t dead and day drinking is a sport. I know for me day drinking is my biggest enemy and my hardest marathon. There are a couple rules I have come to live by whether it is St.Patricks Day or that first spring concert these are my go to tips.


For Carbohydrates Sake


Eat the carbs. As much as you work hard all week to eat healthy and keep your bikini bod in tact try your best to eat some carbs before a long day of binge drinking. If I have something coming up and I am still trying to keep my diet going a burrito bowl or avocado toast are my go to’s.


Stay Hydrated


It is the one thing that is closest to your mom telling you, you need to put on a coat. It is so cliché and annoying but really, drink water. The day of your binge drinking or the night before try to at least down a liter of water and while you are drinking during the day have one of your friends remind you to drink water in between every few drinks and I promise it’ll make all the difference in the world.


Heel, No


The best decision I’ve made since I turned 21 was on day drinking festivities d o n o t w e a r h e e l s. If it is a family event like a birthday party, by all means wear your cutest new wedges from Nordstrom but otherwise if you are really day drinking how are you supposed to play dizzy bat with those things on? There could be lots of spillage coming your way and the last thing you need is to be worried about tripping on your own feet.



Save Yourself


The next day is what we are all fearing in circumstances such as these. In times, I have thanked myself the most is when I decided to prepare. Get yourself some good food for the next day, have the Aleve and Gatorade ready next to your bed just to prepare your body for the next day. **Life Hack- Coconut water will take away a hangover within 45 minutes I HIGHLY recommend.


The Essentials


Lastly, remember to have fun and to make memories. Remember your phone charger, cameras and tough cases so you are prepared. Since there will be so much drinking going on, add your friends on friends on your Iphone (if you have one) just in case someone gets lost. A safe pouch for your ID and Credit Cards is also a spill proof idea that you wont regret.


The most important thing is to have fun and be safe! Happy Spring Everyone

Be Someone’s Hero

Today I am making a post regarding something a little more difficult and not so happy. As we get older we get to have the times of our lives but also have to start dealing with the difficult parts of it as well. Over the past year our community has dealt with a lot of death and no matter what the age I have realized it is never going to get easier.

The amount of suicides that I have personally seen I feel as if it just increases every second. Its such a scary thought that someone with so much life to live can have it taken from them at any moment. I have family and have personally dealt with anxiety since I can remember and I know how difficult it can be to be your own worst enemy. In our society today it is becoming more and more common to sit down and talk to someone about your problems but its still not completely understood. Mental illness is a real thing and should be taken just as seriously as any other disorder, deficiency, or illness. As time goes on we deal with more and more of the criticism of how to look, how to be, how to act but know that those people aren’t you and don’t know who you were born to be. Every single soul matters, as hard as it is to get away from remember that your past is not your future and you are here for a reason. If there is anything us young adults can do I think it is to support each other, lift each other up and help those whom we may not even know. Every single person at our age has gone through difficult times some more than others but they all count and instead of breaking each other down we should try the best we can to bring each other up. Making fun of someone bringing someone down does not make you any better of a person it actually makes you a lesser person than the one you are pointing at. Not a single one of us knows what happened to the person we pass on the highway when they were 12 years old or maybe that that girl riding her bike by your apartment lost her mom to cancer the week before or that the quiet guy at the coffee shop was bullied his entire childhood. We all are going through shit, and we all have to be each other’s heroes. If someone is having a bad day, make it better if someone is crying, dry his or her tears. Be that person you want to help your future children when you’re not around. We have the power to change the future generations and prove that we matter, we all matter you matter and don’t ever forget it.

If you know someone who is contemplating suicide or you yourself are please contact 1-800-273-8255.

The First Post

My name is Ashley and I am 23 years young and this is an open letter to all of us twenty somethings, we are thrown into this world and we are supposed to know how the world works but yet still get told everyday by our parents that we are still so young. How are we supposed to know how to date when all we’ve ever known is college keggers and walk of shames? Eating healthy is something we should all be taking part in but then theres pizza. Ultimately there is the thought that we should have our business, passions and lives all put together when most of us don’t even know how effectively make an omelette let alone have a 401K started. I think all of us need a little help sometimes and just a place to vent and seek advice, for that is why I am here! I am here to post about fashion, dating, lifestyles, money, and everything else us twenty-somethings are working to figure it out and I think we can, together ( at least we can hope)