In your 20’s you are supposed to simmer down after you’ve had a solid four years maybe even five of binge drinking and now that you’ve moved home you should go to the “adult” bars. Well, where I am from there is a mixture of adult bars and “younger” bars all around the same areas. I personally think that the stigma of what you are supposed to do after college has changed, considering we are all supposed to have five years of experience when we have been in school for four, so most of us have the glorified assistant positions and need more alcohol than we ever did as college students because we are now dealing with Godzilla, the boss. Phew! But it’s the truth, I think the bar scene is more difficult to decipher when the right time to slow down is as it’s ever been. Everything is fine in proportion in my opinion and everyone needs a night on the town even when you’re 40 but it all depends on the person. It’s completely normal to get real job money and want to go blow it on Vegas bombs with your friends, in moderation. As I am getting older I am realizing that more than likely you aren’t going there to meet a guy or a girl you are probably going with your friends to a bar to just get a different vibe and change of scenery than each other houses for once, (even though we save money that way). Or maybe even a night on the town with your girl or guy friends that make it seem like something different to do, I am guilty of these FYI. Then there are the group of people who want to try all the swanky and cool bars in their towns, which ok awesome but not so cool when a drink is $20 bucks and as we’ve stated are still probably living pay check to pay check. One time a couple friends and I tried the cool bar downtown which is in the same area as the “younger” bars, surprise surprise. Anyways we get there and the music is awesome but to be quite honest it was jammed packed with people in their 20’s wearing too much cologne and buying drinks they couldn’t afford. We finally make our way towards the back table in the corner and two of us got our overly priced drinks on the way in and it took our two other friends 20 minutes to get just one. The drinks were good, but it’s hard to mess up a vodka tonic. We sat there for awhile and realized it was just us talking we weren’t really reaching out to anyone else who was around us. By the end of the night we ended up at the bar with tons of tv’s and half the price, dancing the night away. There are bars that I think start becoming off limits as we get older because our end goal isn’t to get blacked out because we truly can’t handle those anymore unless someone is bringing an IV to my house in the morning alongside of chocolate chip pancakes. I think as long as you are in good company it truly doesn’t matter where you go, and if people want to judge you let them because at the end of the day alcohol doesn’t discriminate. But with the stresses of getting older with new jobs, new friends and new lives its perfectly normal to still go out. When things start becoming blacking out at the end of the weekend every weekend and feel a lot like college game days round 2, then maybe start asking yourself the questions of what am I doing. Until then, do as your grandparents have told you and live while you’re young all in good moderation and with good company.
As we get older and move out of our college dorms and into new apartments or homes making it a place of sanctuary and comfort can be difficult when mom isn’t there to make you a home cooked meal anymore. The biggest transition I’ve learned is learning that no one is going to do those dishes for you, no one is going to fix that toilet or no one is going to pay your bills, but you. It has taken lots of getting used to as a twenty something woman living on her own. I think the first place to start is decorating your house in the cheapest, chicest, and homey way possible.
I first and foremost put pictures in my house, it made me feel as though even though everyone is no longer here I have a part of them with me. I invested in a Fuji Film Polaroid in the past six months and it has truly made a life change. I now can have all those pictures on my fridge and it only takes a few seconds for them to develop. Another thing I have done to help my home is decorate it, how I want. Every year I use the same type of themes for the seasons but I make a vow to myself that I will keep enough money in my bank account to get a few new items each season to spice things up and keep them updated. Sometimes there are times where I have to get rid of a few things because they are out of style but the things that bring tradition around I always keep because it helps me feel at home. Another thing that has helped me is cooking as much as I can in my house. Cooking is something that makes you feel confident and excited for the end result the more you do it because the first few burnt chickens can make you lose hope. But don’t give up, there is so much fun you can have in the kitchen this is also where all your own traditions can begin. I try to incorporate some of the things that I grew up with in my schedule just to give me that feeling of home again. On Saturdays my mom used to always play Shania Twain and old country while she made breakfast so I try to do that a couple times a month and dance around the kitchen simply because I can.
The last things I find probably the most helpful is have people over and hosting parties. Show off the home that you have made for yourself and be proud of what you are doing whether it’s a shack on the side of the road or an awesome apartment in a downtown district, be proud of where you are making a name for yourself. We are all in the same boat and are just at the beginning of whom we are going to be so let your friends join in the madness with you! Themed parties are a great way to have that excuse, or maybe just a Saturday night. Between your new jobs and new lives everybody needs an excuse for a glass of wine. When throwing get togethers the thing to steer away from is the massive parties we used to have in college with random people, try to keep your parties to a minimum amount of people who you know will respect your belongings and your home. But make your themes as easy and affordable as possible so everyone can join in! I offer to throw birthdays and get togethers when no one else wants to because as long as you organize the cleanup before it gets out of hand then its not so bad! The best way to avoid it getting out of hand is by placing one trash can in its normal spot, another one by the gathering area where everyone drinks and plays games and one by the door, trust me its worth the twenty dollars! Growing up my group of friends always had a couple homes that we were always welcome to whatever the occasion and they became second homes to us, I absolutely loved that feeling and that’s what I want people to feel in my house, home. These are your homes and your lives make it as awesome as you want and as close to home as you can!
As long as we all can remember we have been told that travelling is the only thing you can buy that will make you richer and as shocking as it is, its true. The beautiful thing about this generation is that we are in full support of not rushing into marriages and to be a little bit selfish. Travelling not only can help you learn more about others but I think that it mostly helps you find yourself regardless of whom you are travelling with. But how can you do this when you are in a new job that is paying you crackers and cheap coffee while budgeting your drinking habits?
Balling on a budget is the best thing us young people can learn to do and luckily for us there are so many ways to make this happen nowadays. Between Pinterest and Travelocity making your dream vacations come true is totally possible with some preparation. The best thing I’ve personally learned is to plan in advance, the farther out you can book your rooms the cheaper you can get your flights. The other thing I’ve learned to be helpful is find out what really matters, would you rather have a comfy flight or spend the money on a hiking adventure? Also, ask yourself how much time will you spend your time in the room because this is a place where you can save a lot of money if you’re willing to have a simple room instead of an elaborate one. Lastly budgeting how much you are going to spend on food and alcohol because at the time it will seem like 10 dollars here and 5 dollars here by the end of the trip you will be 400 dollars in the hole due to just those two items. A good way to help this is to stop by a discount liquor store on your way to your hotel once you are in the city and get bigger amounts of alcohol to share with your group of people and pregame before dinners or outings that way you aren’t spending 50 dollars a drink at the bars. For food buying snacks is always helpful because then you wont need to buy as many meals while you are out and will help you be able to control how much you eat on the trip as well.
The other thing you can do when planning a big vacation is look for sales by subscribing to websites that may have sales on activities or explorations you are interested in as well as looking into Groupon. I personally also look into things for the next season or even summer when its winter because things are so much cheaper. The last thing that has saved many possible-boring moments was looking up cool ideas on pinterest and what to do in certain places as well as cool picture ideas so you can remember these moments forever! Remember vacations can only be adventures if you make it one!
Friendships – Forever or Nah
As college is fading into the distant and we are getting older the first question is who will stay in touch? Who will be there when I decide to get married and have children? I personally think this is the stickiest of situations there are. Friends, I feel like are more important than relationships, friendships make you who you are for better or for worse and when the break ups happen they are beyond difficult. Friendships truly depend on where you are in your life and if that person can go through all the struggles with you and try to make you a better person and will love you through it all. The one thing I have stuck by is that I don’t think people change I think they only become more of whom they really are. With the confusion from everything else around us as it is the last thing we need is our friends taking part in it too. From my own personal experiences I have lost a lot of friends throughout the first few years of being in my 20s, not all of them I necessarily wanted but I found out wasn’t healthy to begin with. If you look at your friendship and you were to stop texting them for a week maybe even a month and received nothing, maybe your friendship isn’t mutual and no one deserves to be in a one way friendship or relationship. These are the people we are going to grow old with and know about all your dirty hook ups and stupid mistakes so we have to choose these people wisely.
The scariest thing I think we have to start looking for is do our friends match our values? This is something that all our parents have been annoyingly telling us since we were 7, “Birds of a feather flock together”. The problem with this is, our parents were right. Your friends shouldn’t agree with you on everything if anything they should call you out on your mistakes but help you fix them. If the decisions your friends are making are ones that truly bother you and you’ve expressed your emotions about it and nothing changes is the arguing and difference in thought really worth the friendship? And maybe it is, but I know these are things my friends and me have truly discussed. Above all I think if the friendships are ones we need to let go of the best way to handle the situation is with grace, wish those people the best and move on. Let them be the ones ranting on social media about what a scathing bitch you are because in the end I promise that’s there forever and one day they will have a 20 something year old who they had wished they could tell them they handled the situation differently.
Happy Wine Wednesday everyone! We have all grown to know and love the good ole Franzia but as college has ended and the real world has begun we can’t bring our lucky bag with us anywhere without receiving the stink eye from that wanna be housewife across the room. Good news is we can still drink for cheap! In my local area many places have half price bottles on Wednesday’s I suggest just googling your area to find some good ones! My group of friends will try random ones and have found a few that have truly become favorites! This holiday season it’s a great way to get old friends together and be able to function the next day! Also, even though barefoot and yellowtail aren’t your expensive Caymous it’s good enough to enjoy a night with the girls or for you boys to get a solid buzz. Wine has become more of my friend because sadly it has less calories and I am convinced no one can be an angry wine drunk. Watch out for the hangovers, one glass too many of red will lead you in for a twelve hour hangover hand delivered from the devil himself. Personally, I stick with white but there are some great reds just be careful!
Drink responsibly, for yours and your coworkers sake.