Friendships – Forever or Nah

Friendships – Forever or Nah

As college is fading into the distant and we are getting older the first question is who will stay in touch? Who will be there when I decide to get married and have children? I personally think this is the stickiest of situations there are. Friends, I feel like are more important than relationships, friendships make you who you are for better or for worse and when the break ups happen they are beyond difficult. Friendships truly depend on where you are in your life and if that person can go through all the struggles with you and try to make you a better person and will love you through it all. The one thing I have stuck by is that I don’t think people change I think they only become more of whom they really are. With the confusion from everything else around us as it is the last thing we need is our friends taking part in it too. From my own personal experiences I have lost a lot of friends throughout the first few years of being in my 20s, not all of them I necessarily wanted but I found out wasn’t healthy to begin with. If you look at your friendship and you were to stop texting them for a week maybe even a month and received nothing, maybe your friendship isn’t mutual and no one deserves to be in a one way friendship or relationship. These are the people we are going to grow old with and know about all your dirty hook ups and stupid mistakes so we have to choose these people wisely.

The scariest thing I think we have to start looking for is do our friends match our values? This is something that all our parents have been annoyingly telling us since we were 7, “Birds of a feather flock together”. The problem with this is, our parents were right. Your friends shouldn’t agree with you on everything if anything they should call you out on your mistakes but help you fix them. If the decisions your friends are making are ones that truly bother you and you’ve expressed your emotions about it and nothing changes is the arguing and difference in thought really worth the friendship? And maybe it is, but I know these are things my friends and me have truly discussed. Above all I think if the friendships are ones we need to let go of the best way to handle the situation is with grace, wish those people the best and move on. Let them be the ones ranting on social media about what a scathing bitch you are because in the end I promise that’s there forever and one day they will have a 20 something year old who they had wished they could tell them they handled the situation differently.

The Tinder Chronicles- Does it work?

 

 

Tinder as we all know is supposed to be used to meet new people and for hookups. I truly have never gone as far as being with someone from tinder but I feel like the scale for this raging app is very small. You either have raging horn dog to your most nosy neighbor. If there have been any success stories of this I would love to hear them because I have heard nothing but disasters unless it is the case in that you meet someone you used to know and rekindled that from matching.

 

Personally, as a girl I feel like 99 percent of us don’t like to be greeted with hey how are you will you touch my junk and most of the time that’s what I receive. To all you men out there, the more subtle you are about your sexual desires at first the more likely the girl will be open with you about hers because there isn’t pressure there so screaming from the mountain tops that you would like to go to third base in the back of your car first time speaking probably isn’t the best way to get her to do so. Speaking on these subjects is in my opinion definitely necessary as time goes on but in the beginning I think our generation is lacking that sense of mystery, as the old saying goes why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? I think keeping some sort of desire and secrecy keeps situations and relationships fresh. Our generation is dying to find some form of romance and this is what we have come to. I think that a good ole date would suffice and if we can get that from tinder that would be awesome but I don’t think that’s where the future of this app will ever go. But I do think that the comical pick up lines may make the app worth it in itself. I have had questions from what is your favorite dinosaur to are you my appendix? I don’t understand how you work but this feeling in my stomach makes me want to take you out, and those are pure gold.

 

I think if anything we may be able to meet some awesome people from this creation but as for dating I think I may stick to the good ole texting and dating game, for now.